Below is some building confidence steps that can help you to achieve and be more confident in everything you do.
>Stop Comparing Yourself To Others
One way to help build your confidence is to stop trying to compare yourself with others. The reality is that we generally only know a small percentage of how that person really is.
Everyone thinks, feels, learns and sees things differently.
You are the only person on this planet with your ability, it may not be with special human power that you posses, but the possibilities in you and the way you do things will be endless and different to everyone else.
No two peoples fingerprints are the same.
When you compare yourself to other people you tend to compare yourself to the one person who you believe has it best in life, perhaps believing they have everything, perhaps someone you idolise or admire.
This is definitely not a good way to assess yourself. Instead worry about what it takes to be someone that you like within yourself.
Build upon your own strengths, skills, talent and further your prospects with what you really want to do and plan ahead to achieve, to be successful and to be the best you can be.
>Always Make Eye Contact
Many people are afraid of how other people will view or judge them in different situations. By making eye contact you tell yourself that you are worthy, unafraid and confident. You also send the message to other people that you are talking too.
A little trick I find that works is to look between their eyebrows in the centre of their head, this is less intimidating for you as you are not looking directly into their eyes but from where they are standing it looks like you actually are.
Just make sure you are not staring to hard and are not too up close and personal as this may intimidate the person you are conversing with.
Many people have difficulties making good eye contact and them maintaining it. However, you will find that once you get into the habit of making good eye contact you will naturally feel more confident and this will improve in all situations.
>Exercise & Healthy Eating
Appearance can be a big factor and is a cause for low confidence & self esteem. Improving your physical appearance can do wonders for your confidence.
Exercising often is the best way to make yourself feel better and look better. Exercise of any kind enhances that feel good factor, mood and sends a pleasurable feeling through your body.
Exercising on a regular basis will improve anyone’s physical appearance and subsequently their self confidence. If you feel good, you smile more, you smile more you feel more confident. There is pattern here emerging.
Also drink plenty of fluids, [avoid being dehydrated]. It is a good idea to drink a bottle of water [500 ML] when you get up in the morning and have several more drinks of water at regular times throughout the day and as you need it to maintain hydration.
Furthermore, eating healthy, monitoring your food intake and implementing an exercise routine that you are happy with and enjoy will work wonders, but make sure it is a routine you enjoy otherwise your fitness regime will be short lived and you will see little or no improvement.
Dressing sharp is an easy and immediate way to increase confidence. Dress sensible for the occasion.
For example, if you are going for a job interview you want to feel comfortable in what you are wearing while giving out positive signals that you have thought about your appearance and you value yourself and the job you seek.
A smart appearance shows that you have good standards and care about your personal hygiene and personal appearance [first impressions can be very important] and we rarely get a second chance to make that first impression.
Furthermore, this can result in positive physiological effect resulting in improved interactions with other people. This in turn will enhance your level of comfort in everyday situations. This will make you feel better about yourself and confidence levels will be raised.
>Compliment Others Often
Get into the mind set of thinking positive. This will allow you to see the good in people and compliment them in things that they do well and praise their strong points.
So you ask, how is that going to help boost your confidence, self esteem.
Well when you compliment others you are many times more likely to get a sincere compliment in return. This will then boost your confidence. This will reinforce your strong points and push your positive characteristics to the forefront of your self assurance.
Of course don’t over do it and make sure they deserve that compliment you give them.
>Help Those Less Fortunate
Finding the time to provide assistance, support or help to someone less fortunate should be very rewarding.
Helping those less fortunate is one of the most empowering feelings in the world. Those who do community work and providing a support service to the public often have incredible high confidence and self esteem and have a positive outlook on life.
The empowering feeling of helping others builds self confidence in yourself, the feel good factor and helps you realise that you are able to make a positive impact in the community and beyond and giving you great satisfaction.
>Face Your fears & Don’t Fear Failure
Having a fear is a massive reason for why many of us have low confidence. Fears that we may have can impact and take control over how we are feeling about ourselves and can affect our life.
When we feel anxious, worried or fear something we can feel weak, we may not be in control and perhaps unable to cope.
In order to overcome fear, we need to face up to the fears. Do not avoid the things that you are afraid of.
Learn to understand the cause and fear of the problem you are facing, instead of running from it. Learn to never fear failure.
Everyone in life fails in something from time to time. A few failures will not define your life. The way you respond to these fears or failure is what defines you and can make you much stronger.
>Carry Confidence With You
Work on being confident and carry it with you in all that you do. For example,
- Speak clearly and with a reasonable volume.
- Give good eye contact.
- Be conscious of your posture.
- Don’t cross your arms as this can show insecurity.
- Use your hands to explain things, this can help to draw your crowd a vivid picture of your explanations, [make sure you do this in a controlled way].
- Key is to maintain a positive attitude, outlook and approach. To believe in yourself and be willing to make a change/s to better your situation.
Self confidence can be learned, practised and mastered just like any other skill. Once this has been mastered, everything in your life can improve and change for the better.
Now ask yourself, are you implementing the steps and maintaining the skill?
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