Family Tree & Links
Communication Builds A Strong Picture
Mediation Builds Steps For Reconciliation
On occasions, I found that when clients were referring to their family and often extended family members and where issues were strained and complex that it was useful for my clients to relate to a family tree and to draw in the links or connections.
This enabled me to gather a bigger picture and have a better understanding of the family dynamics that may have existed and this helped with the coaching & mentoring sessions.
I also found this system very useful when working in adolescent units. Some young people found it a positive way to explain and relate to their family members and in turn this assisted staff in understanding the family links and in supporting the young person with any issues that perhaps existed.
A family tree can be complied in many ways or with different systems, this depends on you.
Below is one method of filling in the family tree, however some have larger families and may use a different system.
Consider the relationships, the various levels of communication and support and draw in the lines.
- _____________________________ = strong link
- _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ = weak link
- ++++++++++++++++++++ = stressful link
If problems exist or perhaps escalating then do something about it. Seek the help you need now. Consider mediation as a means of neutral support to untangle and help solve issues.
Building trust, having positive relationships with our work colleagues, friends and family are an integral part of life and makes for a happier environment.
Mediation bring people back into the present moment.
“I could agree with you, but then we’d both be wrong.”